Coordinating to Provide Continuity of Early Childhood Discipline Across Caregivers
Angela Oswalt, MSW, Natalie Staats Reiss, Ph.D and Mark Dombeck, Ph.D.In many families, there is more than one primary caregiver. Not always, but often, caregivers are working in pairs. In some families, extended family members may share part of the burden of disciplining children. It's important that all primary caregivers get together at some point to share with one another their attitudes and beliefs about parenting and discipline. Based on this meeting, a shared discipline plan that all parties can agree upon and follow can be crafted. Caregivers who share the same discipline practices provide children with an expectation and a reality of continuity; that no matter who they are dealing with, if they misbehave, they will always face the same consequences. Continuity increases obedience in children, as children who can rely on continuity always know what is expected of them. Children who grow up without continuity of discipline are more likely to misbehave and to feel insecure. Children will continually test the limits set by different caregivers who provide inconsistent discipline so as to determine where the boundaries really are.
Caregivers should also support one another in a disciplinary situation. One caregiver should back up the consequence or rule that the other parent has previously explained to a child, unless that consequence is dangerous or abusive. It's alright for caregivers to disagree about how to handle specific situations, but caregivers should discuss their disagreements in private, away from the children. This way, the children see their caregiving team as a united front that will stand firm. Presenting a unified front will save caregivers from future hassles, especially as children grow older and more independent. Children who grow up with caregivers who present a unified front will learn early on that it is a waste of their time to go from caregiver to caregiver in an attempt to escape consequences.
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Development During Early Childhood, Toddler, and Preschool Stages
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- Early Childhood Physical Development: Average Growth
- Early Childhood Physical Development: Gross and Fine Motor Development
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- Early Childhood Cognitive Development: Symbolic Function
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- Early Childhood Emotional and Social Development: Identity and Self-Esteem
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- Early Childhood Emotional and Social Development: Social Connections Continued
- Early Childhood Emotional and Social Development: Conclusion
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- Early Childhood Conclusion
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Parenting Your Todder, Preschooler, and Young Child
- Introduction to Parenting Your Toddler, Preschooler, and Young Child
- Early Childhood Feeding and Nutrition
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- Early Childhood Sleep
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Toilet Training
- Early Childhood Toilet Training Introduction
- The Right Time to Start Toilet Training: Children's Readiness
- The Right Time to Start Toilet Training: Family Readiness and Red Flags
- Pre-Toilet Training in Early Childhood
- Preparing the Space for Toilet Training in Early Childhood
- Toilet Training-Friendly Clothing
- Early Childhood Toilet Training Methods
- Early Childhood Toilet Training Methods Continued
- Early Childhood Toilet Training Methods Conclusion
- How to Deal with Toilet Training Challenges: Travel
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- Bedwetting, Encopresis and Enuresis, and Conclusions
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Disciplining Your Toddler, Preschooler, and Young Child
- Disciplining Your Toddler, Preschooler, and Young Child Introduction
- Parents as Disciplinarians in Early Childhood
- Preventing Early Childhood Misbehavior Before it Happens
- The Use of Choice in Early Childhood
- A Step-by-Step Guide for How to Discipline Children in Early Childhood
- Natural and Logical Consequences in Early Childhood
- Combining Choice and Consequences in Early Childhood
- Early Childhood Time Outs
- Spanking in Early Childhood
- Coordinating to Provide Continuity of Early Childhood Discipline Across Caregivers
- Lying in Early Childhood
- Supportive Communication in Early Childhood and Discipline Conclusion
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Nurturing Your Toddler, Preschooler, and Young Child
- Nurturing Your Toddler, Preschooler, and Young Child Introduction
- Creating Nurturing Space in Early Childhood
- Physical Nurturing: Gross Motor Activities in Early Childhood
- Physical Nurturing: Fine Motor Activities in Early Childhood
- Cognitive Nurturing in Early Childhood
- Cognitive Nurturing in Early Childhood Continued
- Cognitive Nurturing in Early Childhood Conclusion
- Social Nurturing in Early Childhood
- Emotional Nurturing in Early Childhood
- Cultural and Spiritual Nurturing in Early Childhood
- Nurturing at Home and Outside the Home and Nurturing Conclusions
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Infants: Parenting and Child Development
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Development During Early Childhood, Toddler, and Preschool Stages
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