Sick Husband

My husband had a heart transplant on December 7, 1998, and since then my life has been hell. He was sick in bed for three years before this and I worked full time and waited on him hand and foot. I was offered an early retirement package and I took it because he wasn't going to the doctor appointments because I couldn't take him. We have been married 33 years, and I can barely stand to even look at him. The reason being he is so negative and doesn't follow the doctor's orders as he has the heart transplant and think that he knows more than the doctors. He has been told that since the transplant he is a manic depressant, but when they put him on antidepressant's he doesn't take them long enough for them to work and then he won't go back to the shrink. I am so stressed and don't have a clue where to turn. He has no desires and doesn't do anything except lay on the bed all day, unless I will take him somewhere, I can't continue to live like this so what are my choices?

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