Countering Type A With Assertiveness

My husband is very much an A Type personality. I'm a B Type person. I've used avoidance in the past because I just don't know an effective way to deal with him. However, avoidance has left me feeling angry, and resentful. I came to the realization that I've been resisting his A-ness as of late. So, it's one thing to say okay I accept this is him but, it's another to know how to deal with, respond to, and interact with him in a way that will preserve my sanity, dignity, and keep my stress level down. Are there any books available as resources for guiding me through dealing with this difficult man. My easy going don't sweat the small stuff outlook is starting to feel the strain. I know that how I deal with and react to him is my choice, but, when you have the proper communication tools it is a lot easier to make the best choice. Right now counseling is not an option.

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