Our son seems to have some kind of personality disorder. He has been a sleep-walker since childhood. He is intelligent, creative, physically adept, handy and a quick learner. He has gotten and lost numerous jobs. He has gotten 2 DUIs and after finally getting his license back after the last one, quickly lost it again by not taking care of a couple of tickets.
He can't seem to take responsibility for his actions. It is never his fault. He can be charming and helpful or moody and testy. He has sleep problems. He has an incredibly messy room that leaks out into the rest of the house at times. He doesn't seem to be able to throw trash away on a regular basis.
He has friends, though his lack of mobility and money hinders his social life. He can spend an entire day in his room only coming out to eat. He sometimes over reacts to situations. It is often a trial to get him to cooperate with chores.
He is 35 and still lives with us. He has no job now and hasn't for a while. He helps out with our business sometimes. He babysits for friends. He is actually very good and kind with children and has 2 god-daughters who call to chat with him and call him their best friend.
What can we do to help him move on with his life? He is stuck. And he is driving me to distraction.
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