My Dead Mother Haunts My Dreams

Two years ago my mother passed away after I had cared for her for 10 years. I began a new job and thought I had gone on with my life. Then the dreams began. Each night for 2 years, I dream that my mother is still alive. She is with me demanding my care, I keep asking (in my dream) How can you be here, I had a funeral for you. Now we are back like before. What do I do when you really die? I have tried Paxil and another anti-depressant. The dreams have faded in clairity, but they still come every night.My mother was a very strong willed person and for 10 years my life was pretty much controlled by her. I know there was resentment there, even though I loved her and cared for her every need. What can I do now? I really do not want to begin seeing a counselor. We live in a small community and this would not be good news. Right now I am on 40mg. of Celexa.It doesn't seem to be helping. Can you please help me.

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