I am a mental health professional and a marriage counselor, and I have a problem I cannot solve! I've been married 20 years and have four children, ages 10 and under. My husband believes he has Attention Deficit Disorder (although I question that), so he has been taking two medications in combination. The meds were prescribed by a psychiatrist. Since he went on the medications his personality changed drastically, with him becoming aggressive, insensitive, critical, and psychopathic, after having been a kind, gentle man of high integrity. He has become rageful and violent at times. I have contacted his psychiatrist by phone to report all this, but the psychiatrist would not respond to me, and my husband just tells him (and everyone else) that he is fine, and that I am the problem! I have tried to get help from his family, my family, and our family doctor. Even though I have honestly reported the many destructive behaviors my husband has shown since starting this medication (it's been about 4 months now), people are hesitant to just say to him, "get off the medications!" Yet, from past experience and my own expertise as a marriage therapist and mental health professional, I know that my husband will not change this behavior pattern until he gets off these medications. He has always had a problem with employment, taking responsibility, and looking honestly at himself. He also tends to blame me for any problems we have -- which is exactly what he's doing now. Yet, I love him, and am dedicated to our marriage. Any suggestions?
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