I have been married for 20 years to a guy that is very unemotional (cool as a cucumber). I have occupied my love life with my children and dedicated my life to them in order to receive some type of love back. Now my kids are older and do not need me anymore (that way) so I found a man and for the last 4 years I have been having an affair. I really love him, but I'm afraid of leaving my husband. I am afraid of telling him that I want a divorce. I know that you are not supposed to get a divorce because of someone else, but this someone else showed me that there is a lot to life and love really is out there. I act very cool to my husband and I don't even like having sex anymore; in fact I always have an excuse. That is not like me. I enjoy sex very much. How do I tell my authoritarian husband (who also has a mood disorder) that I want to leave? I am hoping that he will ask me for the divorce. What are the chances?
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