Me and my boyfriend of 4.5 to about 5 years broke up for about 8 months. We were set to get married and everything seemed fine. One day he broke it off, and 8 months later we got back together. Now I have a hard time being with him, but I am trying my best to make what we have work. I don't know what to do. I care about him, I just dont know if i love him anymore. After he broke up with me he hurt me a great deal and now I am afraid I will be hurt again after what has happened and I keep a distance from him. Recently I moved out of the house and am currently staying at a friend's so that we might possibly be able to work on things apart instead of together while creating animosity between each other. He doesn't go to school and just works one job. I go to school full time while holding a full time job as well. I am cleaning up after him and I have told him repeatedly that it would be nice to see him do more with his life, but it always ends up in a fight. I no longer tell him how I feel and he doesnt really talk to me about anything. Also, because of what happened I find myself never wanting to be around him. So, I left the home that we bought together. Please help, any advice to help fix this. I no longer know what to do.
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