How should I respond to a wonderful husband who refuses to acknowledge any type of thoughtful gift giving for holidays, special occasions like birthdays, xmas, and valentines? I try to put it out of my mind but I have to admit I think that the excuse is that he doesn't believe in the marketing' gimicks of holidays etc; but, he could still make thoughful gestures to celebrate someone 'special' to him. He seems to enjoy when other people, including myself, celebrate and give him gifts, cards or special meals. I repress my disappointment and figure it's (I am) not that important, but it just builds especially when I hear about the thoughtful attempts of others. I know I can always take care of myself but it would be nice to think he wanted to celebrate me. I am in a catch 22, if I bring up the subject with more than a subtle hint I risk spoiling the whole thing - I would like him to be thoughtful on his own not because I asked him.
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