About seven months ago, I caught my husband with another woman on two separate occasions. Our marriage has been rocky for the last 15 years off and on out of 21. He says they are only friends, but I feel differently. This has caused several blowouts with each other the last being almost 3 weeks ago. I made him move out 5 weeks ago and want him to come home as I love him deeply. He doesn't want to talk about the problem and I tell him to please leave me alone by not stoping by or phoning but after a day or two he will call. We have a 13 year old but this is not the reason he calls me. He is keeping me on an emotional roller coaster and does tell me that a divorce is a life-long decision and he doesn't know what he wants for sure. I am going crazy not knowing what he wants for sure since this has been going on for the last seven months. Please give me some clue as how to handle this situation, I just don't know how to get him to tell me what he wants.
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