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Wanting That Magic Back

I have been married for almost two years. I love my husband very much, and we are working through lots of our problems. One problem I have is that I have some unresolved feeling for another person that I never got to "try on" before I got married. An unrequited love of sorts, although this other person has admitting regret of not having a go with me, too. Since I am not open to the possibility of cheating or breaking up my marriage, what are some effective ways of dealing with these feelings? I don't feel the same way about my husband as I do this other person. My husband I love in a very practical and real way, where this other person is fanciful, magical, and probably just a fantasy. I do not feel special or magical around my husband, but I do around this other person. My husband has neglected recognizing how important having these types of romantic feelings is to me, which is why I think that I have started thinking about this other person again. These feelings of romance and love are ones I wish to have with my husband but I don't know how to achieve that. I need to get over these feelings myself before I can expect anything to improve with my husband. I have tried to tell my husband what I need but he just gets mad at me. Any advice?

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