For two and a half years since my husband got a new secretary, I've had the feeling that something was going on between them. He denies any type of physical attraction, swearing they are only friends. He spends countless hours with her. Stays late at the office, the whole nine yards. He swears that they are just really close friends and wants me to be friends with her and her husband also. I have had people from his work say they saw them kissing, he vehemently denies. He makes calls to her and her to him. One morning I caught him making a phone call to her. He said that she had been late several times to work and wanted him to give her a wake up call. Her husband seems oblivious to all of this. He lies to me or doesn't tell me everything about situations or events that have taken place, when he gets caught, he says he knew I would just get mad so he didn't tell me. What should I do about this, meanwhile we have to have them as "friends". The three of them want to plan a camping trip for spring. HELP
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