Anne, I am still in love with my high school sweetheart. Its been nearly 30 years since we were together. I have been married for 26 years and have three children, but my marriage has been completely dysfunctional for about ten years. About 5 years ago I found through research on the internet that my long lost high school love had become widowed. This prompted me to attempt contact with her which went nowhere. She already has a significant other and two kids from her previous marriage. She and her new other left messages on my phone making it clear they are not interested in talking to me. For years, I have thought of this woman almost constantly, never really loving my wife the whole time we were married. I often have intense dreams about this woman and my obsession with her grows worse every year. I'm not interested in anyone else at all. I simply long for a return to the only real love I've ever known. I suspect you will say this is unhealthy and recommend that I work to let go of the past and focus on a healthier relationship, but I cant understand how I can work to end the only love in my life although its totally one-sided.
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