Over the past several years, my marriage steadily deteriorated. He was never very communicative, and as time went on, I got tired of trying to keep the channels open. Eventually, I became very depressed and started taking some herbal remedies to help with that. The times I tried to discuss my worries about the relationship, the response was a joke or quip from a t.v. show to "lighten the mood". It never felt as though serious consideration was being given to the situation. The final result of my depression was the enormous mistake of having an affair with a man in a similar situation. He and I seem to have great communication and a good deal of similar interests. I had separated from my husband prior to this time, but had not yet pursued a divorce. Now that the whole situation has come to the surface I find myself dealing with a lot of guilt and remorse. Obviously there is no hope for the marriage, but how can I find the ability to forgive myself?
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