Anne, I have been married to a wonderful man for 5 years, but I have found myself no longer physically attracted to him because he is, in short, a slob: He showers only once or twice a week and then complains to me that his cloths are never clean and that the house smells, etc. He constantly picks his nose in front of me and in public. Just last night, for example, while picking his nose so deeply I thought his face was going to cave in, he asked me if I was "in the mood," and as I responded "NO", he studied the contents of his nose and said, "why not." ? He then complains that I'm a prude and that our sex life is non-existent. I'm sorry, but I not attracted to a man who picks his nose and smells like a horse. My best friend says I'm over-reacting; that he is just acting like a man. My husband is a wonderful man in almost every other way, and I would like to change him if I could. Am I over-reacting? How do I get a 33-year-man to stop picking his nose and shower a little more often?
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