i really love my boyfriend. We live together and have been together for a year. We have been friends for a couple of years. I would say 90% of the time we communicate well, and are really close, and really enjoy each others company. My problem is that both of us work 2 jobs and really only spend all day Sundays together without interruptions. During the week, we cant really speak for too long on the phone, because were working. So in the afternoons, when we both get ready for job #2, i always feel like i never get enough of his time. i just want like 5 minutes for cuddling or intimacy. But i always end up feeling like he didn't show me that much affection. I miss him all the time and would probably spend every moment with him if i could. Am i obsessing?
Last year when i was with another boyfriend, i was cheated on and really drug through a TERRIBLE break up. I sometimes wonder if i am holding on to my current boyfriend so tightly so that same thing doesn't happen again. He has been really patient with me and sometimes i even call him crying hysterically on the phone because i miss him so much. I don't want to drive him away. I really love him a lot and know he would never hurt me, I trust him completely.
How do i rationalize to myself and realize that it is not that he doesn't want to spend time with me, its just that he has to work? Are my past relationships and heartbreaks interfering with the fact that i have a chance to have a normal, healthy relationship? please help me!!
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