We have been married for over 25 years, a basically wonderful marriage. Financially, we are fine. I am a teacher, and hubby is a surgeon. Lately all he does is attends business dinners, meetings, teleconferences, or just stays late at the office, then comes home and sleeps on the couch. I know that he is not fooling around because I arrange his schedule for all of the above. He does not come to sleep with me. If I endeavor to wake him, he screams at me, so I have, therefore, stopped trying to wake him. He sleeps until 3 or 4AM. We have had little communication in the last month. My depression has dug itself into a deeper tunnel. Hubby has always been there for me when I have been sick for whatever reason: knee operations, childbirth, depressions, etc. Now, that I am well, I seem to be ignored. I am very involved with his work: organizing and scheduling and assisting with his studies, surveys, and insurance forms. I don't know what else I can do. I have tried to discuss this with him. His answer is always that he is just tired. I feel that there is more to it. Thank you.
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