A few months ago I came across my boyfriend's photos of his ex when he connected his Iphone to his personal laptop. I was not happy and asked him to remove them. I made it clear that if I was the only one who mattered, he should throw the pictures away. He was not happy at first but still promised to delete them because I was the most important woman to him.
But recently I went to his office and realized all his exes' photos were saved within separate albums under their individual names, and there was one album under my name too. Even after he promised me to remove all the photos, he only removed those pictures of his exes from his Iphone only to save them somewhere else.
I just wonder how much his ex girlfriend meant to him that he'd rather lie and sneakily keep them? And because I was so pissed the moment I found out, he deleted them right in front of me.
It still has me hanging. I feel I'm of no difference from those women. I don't feel as important as he described, and I can't trust him. Now all the pictures are gone but I still feel awful. It just bothers me that he'd rather keep those pics knowing that it put our relationship at risk.
Now I don't know what to do?
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