My husband of 18 years has epilepsy. He suffered brain trauma in a motor accident 40 years ago. He is now 61. He is an alcoholic and was diagnosed with a personality disorder 6 months after we married. Now, so many years later, it is very, very difficult to live with him. He is mean, nasty, rude and abusive. He lies to everyone, especially me. He has no friends and has driven away my own 4 grown daughters after doing the same to his 3 grown children. He has taken me for every penny I used to have, leaving me entirely dependent on him. Somehow, he has managed to isolate me from my family and friends. I only stay with him because I feel sorry for him and try to help him.
Whenever he decides to actually speak to me he tells me he cannot live without me. He is dirty. He stinks. His toe nails are 1 year long. He only showers once a month, just to shut me up. I complain about him smelling. He also has grand-mal seizures, wets the bed and lies in it and expects me to do the same!!! He's disgusting!!! He is lazy & withdrawn. He sleeps 10-18 hours a day. When awake, he watches TV in another room & does nothing, other than drink alcohol, secretly, eat and lie. If I ask him to do something he just ignores me and shows no response. He won't even take his tablets. I have to fight with him to do so. He doesn't care for our home, belongings, pets, me, anything. He swears & shouts & blames anything and everything for his own failures.
He gives me the "silent treatment" all the time whilst I am looking after him and taking care of running the household AND his life. He has been physically abusive to me before and I am scared of this man.
What kind of personality disorder does he have? Antisocial Personality Disorder??
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