I met a 55-year old woman 6 months ago and we hit it off right away. We went on a couple of dates but about 3 weeks into our relationship she suggested we visit her therapist for a session just to 'make sure everything was going well' between us. Before our session she volunteered to me that she has been going to psychotherapists for over 27 years and currently has 3 that she sees.
At the start of the session her therapist asked me if I had any questions or concerns about the woman. I said that it felt odd to be in her office after such a short time and I had a concern that, after 26 years of therapy, the woman would probably be remaining in therapy into the foreseeable future. At that, the woman burst out crying and ran out of the office. Her counselor was noticeably upset and asked me to go sit in the lobby. It's now been 5 months. I like her and want to remain friends. She says FRIENDS is fine with her too but I've recently found out she is telling all of her friends and family that we're dating exclusively.
Do I run or work with her on this?
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