I have been with the same girl for over four years. I'm off at college and she stays at my house with my family. We have never gone more than a couple of days without getting into a huge fight about something. And it's always about little stuff like, I didn't put the letter "I" in front of a text message that said "Love you," or I didn't hold her hand and act all "lovey-dovey" right after one of these huge fights. This causes another fight about how I don't love her.
She also is always accusing me of liking other girls, especially my ex when I don't even talk to any other girls besides her, my family, and some of the ones at my church. We can never seem to agree on anything and it seems like, when we are together, we bring out the absolute worst in each other.
I feel like there is just something that doesn't work between us, but she doesn't feel the same. Is it fair that she is still head-over-heels in love with me, but I can't stand being around her half the time?
Should we stay together, or should we break up? And, if we should break up, how would/should I go about doing it?
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